“Does God hates gays?”

Warning : This post is not for gays and neither is for Christians. It is a private conversation of mine and I think it is good I recollect what I said. So, keep your gay-hating or gay-loving thoughts and take it elsewhere.

A few nights ago, someone who was at his lowest asked me this question. I cannot possibly preached to a person when they are in that position. This person concluded on his own that God doesn’t hate gays but hate people who lust. I do tend to agree with him because even in straight relationship, if a person go around sleeping with everyone, it is just as bad.

None of us are in a position to say for sure if God abhors the act of homosexuality. Because by doing so, we are actually building a wall around us. We are not living the part of Jesus’s life where He goes to the all those who seek Him eventhough they do not know Him. I prefer to be general and leave the person to find their own path. All I can do is to say a little prayer for God to have mercy and do what God does best. Do what? How do I know?

I always use the guide of Jesus on the cross with two other criminals who were about to be put to death with Jesus. One continued with his disbelief while the other knows his wrong doings and asked Jesus something (I forgot what) as he believed Jesus is the Son of God and Jesus said : Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise. See? You can be rotten as hell but if at some point in your life, you want to take a different path, there is still an open door.

The same thing with people who committed suicide. Several years back when I was involved in grief support, I know a lot of moms whose children committed suicide find it hard to make sense because their faith taught them suicide is a sin. Yet, these mothers cannot face the harsh fact their children anywhere else but heaven. So, we comforted them with this Jesus on the cross part from the Bible. At those last breaths, we believe the person surely have thought of God.

Now, back to homosexuality. Does God hate gays? I don’t think so. I had once asked this touchy question in one of my Christian enlightment weekend. Something like a brainwashing weekend. This guy works with drug addicts, the homeless, the trans-sexual sex workers working on the backlanes and etc. He merely provide them foods, shelter when needed and only talk to them about God when they want to hear it.

And what he told me is this - No, God doesn’t hate gays. But having same sex intercourse is against nature. God didn’t make Adam and Steve. God made Adam and Eve.

He told me that there are many people who realised that they have no desire for relationship with women and these men chose to remain single all their lives.

How you want to interpret what I said above is entirely up to you. Like I said, I am not interested to go into discussion with anyone on gays relationship because I am not in a position to do that.

Now, back to the original conversation. I told the person that no one is worth loving and dying for. I explained that it is foolish to sacrifice their own health, their safety, their sanity and their work just for a person because no one deserves it. Especially when I know the kind of treatment the other person has been giving. But then, some people chose to live the way they live. I have done what I can, asking the person to see a doctor immediately because I suspected internal bleeding and fear for damages to kidneys and livers. I repeatedly advised the person to seek help for his depression, paranoia, obsession and whatever mental problems he is facing because his brain chemicals have screwed up. I had done all I know and the rest, is up to YOU. No one can help you if you cannot help yourself.